to asexual aro boys: society says that you have to want sex and romance, but it’s okay if that’s not something that you’re into. you don’t have to give in to pressure. you deserve to be comfortable with who you are. you aren’t missing out.

to gray-aro boys: your identity is real. if you find that your labels help you define yourself and your attraction, use them. you’re not hurting anyone, and you are welcome in the aro community.

to gay aro boys: you are not contributing to the sexualisation of gay relationships. you are not to blame for harmful stereotypes. your love is wonderful just the way it is. 

to bi/pan/polysexual aro boys: likewise, you are not responsible for stereotypes that say bi/pan/polysexual people are promiscuous. it’s okay if you just want casual sex, and it’s okay if you want intimate, non-romantic relationships (or if you don’t). they matter, just like you.

to heterosexual aro boys: your identity does not make you a raging misogynist who just uses women for sex. you are a person with thoughts and feelings just like everybody else, and others are wrong for making assumptions. your identity is important, even if others try to convince you otherwise.

to trans and nonbinary aro boys: you are not any less of a boy for being aro. you know yourself better than anyone else, and no aspect of your identity invalidates another. 

to neurodivergent aro boys: it’s okay if your aro identity is influenced by your neurodivergence. it’s also okay if it’s not. it deserves recognition either way.

to aro boys: your identity is beautiful and valid. you don’t need to change for anybody.