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Asexual gatekeeping

I feel like every question that starts “can I still be asexual if...” can be easily answered with “yes, our community just sucks sometimes”.

“Can I be asexual and masturbate?” Yes

“Can I be asexual and still have sex?” Yes

“Can I be asexual and have kinks/fetishes?” Yes

“Can I...” Yes.


Someone once asked me if they could still be asexual if they got boners and had wet dreams. YES. Of course! And I’m sorry you felt like you had to ask that. Both of those things are natural and a part of puberty for people with penises and it has nothing to do with your sexuality.

The asexual community is exiled enough from the rest of the LGBTQ+ community (because asexuals/aromantics ARE a part of the community) so why do we exile so many asexuals?

Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.

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Asexual Experiences Survey
This survey is intended to collect information about the experiences, positive and negative, of people identifying as asexual or under the a
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A fellow activist asked me to boost this A-spec Experiences Survey. The survey is being conducted by ACT Aces, an asexuality social and advocacy group in Canberra, Australia. Open to all ages and locations.

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What Do Aces Face?

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Unicorn March is all about pride for the most forgotten and endangered parts of the community. 

Sometimes, pride means knowing more about the struggles that people like you face. Pride from within, from knowing what you’re surviving. Pride from other community members and outsiders, supporting you and loving you for what you are, not just what you overcome. 

This infographic collects all the current data on ace-spec oppression into one thread. (It exceeds Tumblr’s image limit, so if you’re only seeing the first post, check the notes for the rest.) Feel free to save any of these images to share. Tag @unicorn-march if you can, when you use these in a reply or your own posts; it would be great to see how this info helps people. Image descriptions are in the alt tags. 

[Dark purple background with large white text that says 'Unicorn March presents: What Aces Face,' followed by a small ace flag.]
[Dark purple background with large white text that says 'First, a few quick definitions.' Smaller white text below it says, 'The 'unicorns' of the LGBTQIPA+ community are groups that are rarely seen, and rarely supported. Asexuals, or 'aces,' aren't sexually attracted to men. Or women. Or any other genders.  Some aces can get turned on by the idea of enjoyable sex; some just don't enjoy it, or are repulsed by it. But they don't get turned on by people. The ace spectrum also includes people who are demisexual and grey-ace. Demis don't experience sexual attraction without deep emotional intimacy.  Most people go on first dates to see if they feel attraction; demis don't know if they'll ever feel it for a given person.']
[White text here continues from the previous image: 'Like many grey areas, 'grey-ace' covers a lot of territory. Grey-aces identify with the experiences shared overall by the ace community. But they might feel unsure about whether they sometimes experience sexual attraction. They may experience it only vaguely, conditionally, or, like many demis, very, very rarely. Or they may experience some sort of sexual attraction, but not any particular drive or interest in sex. The beauty of the grey-ace label is that people can connect to the ace-spec community without having to put their reasons into words. If that sounds confusing, try assuming you're experiencing attraction, when really you just want, very much, to date someone. Or thinking you must be bi or pan, because you experience the same amount of (or lack of) attraction to all genders. Or distinguishing between sexual attraction to people, and free-floating sexual arousal in general. Most of us assume that if we have any sex drive at all, it must mean we're attracted to people. But there's a difference... and even when we don't notice the difference, it has an impact on our lives.']
[Black text on a grey background says In The WorkplACE. The letters ACE are in the rest of the ace pride flag colors: white, grey, and purple. Below this header is an explanation of the bar graph following it: 'The white columns show the percent of each group, at work, that experiences verbal harassment, exclusion from activities, being nonconsensually outed, the threat or act of physical or sexual harassment or violence, or other inappropriate comments or conduct.  In order to avoid counting sexual minorities who are harassed for being trans, these numbers are only for cis sexual minorities. Transgender responses were consistently higher: a full third of heterosexual trans people reported similar experiences.' The chart shows that 19.3% of gay people were harassed at work, 23.3% of bisexuals, 28.6% of pansexuals, 29% of aces, and 27.1% of queer people. Additional dark and light purple bars alongside the white bars show stats for cis and trans people living in poverty. Among cis people, 37.7% of gay people in the UK are living in poverty; 59% of bisexuals; 65.2% of pansexuals; 64% of aces; and 57.3% of queer people. Among trans people, 57.9% of gay people live in poverty; 60.5% of bisexuals; 66.2% of pansexuals; 64.8% of aces; and 64.7% of queer people. Black text below this chart gives the source of the data as 'Government Equalities Office, 2017, National LGBT Survey.']
[This page features a purple background and a central white square with the text, 'Barriers To Education: In 2015, the Association of American Universities surveyed more than 150,000 students nationwide about some of the challenges they might have been experiencing. These statistics are from their time in college and graduate school only.' Around this are four sections, with greyscale squares in different sizes showing the statistics for each group. From the top of the page, proceeding clockwise around it: 60.4% of gay/lesbians, 64% of aces, and 69.1% of bisexuals experience harassment during college and graduate school. 10.8% of straight students, 13.7% of gay/lesbian, 18.3% of ace, and 25.6% of bi students experience violent assault. 3.7% of straight, 5.9% of gay, 9.5% of ace, and 9.9% of bi students experience stalking. and 5.2% of straight, 8.7% of gay, 13.5% of ace, and 14.4% of bi students experience nonconsensual touch. The bottom of the page gives the following source: Cantor, David, et al. 2015. AAU Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct.]
[A light grey background, decorated with dots and circles in purple and white, with a white bar graph. Purple text reads, 'HOME SWEET HOME: The white columns show the percent of each group that at home, in the past year, experienced verbal harassment, insults, or other hurtful comments; coercive or controlling behavior; being nonconsensually outed; the threat or act of physical or sexual harassment or violence; or other inappropriate comments or conduct. In order to avoid counting sexual minorities who are abused for being trans, these numbers are only for cis sexual minorities. Transgender responses were consistently higher, but followed a similar pattern, ranging from 36.8% for heterosexuals to 58.9% for pansexuals.' Below this, the bar chart shows the percentages: 22.5% of gay people, 34.8% of bisexuals, 39.3% of pansexuals, 32.1% of queer people, 35.6% of aces, and 36.6% of people identifying in some other way. These stats are once again from the UK's national LGBT Survey in 2017.]
[A large, purple-edged, white speech bubble against a black background says, 'So-called conversion therapies, sometimes also referred to as cure, aversion or reparative therapies, are techniques intended to change someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity... commonly ranging from pseudo-psychological treatments to spiritual counselling. In extreme cases, they may also include surgical and hormonal interventions, or so-called ‘corrective’ rape.' The quote is attributed to 'The Rt. Hon. Penny Mordaunt and the Government Equalities Office. (2017) National LGBT Survey: Research Report.']
[A cherry-red megaphone against a purple background illustrates the stats for 'CONVERSION THERAPY.' A smaller subheader says, 'The least- studied asexual experience by far is also one of the most damaging -- and most common.' The page goes on to explain, 'In 2017, the UK's Government Equalities Office conducted the National LGBT Survey, which included more than 108,000 LGBTQIPA+ people. Their findings finally validated what aces had been saying for years: a wide swath of the world treats their sexual orientation as a disease to be 'cured.' By force, if necessary.' The megaphone is lined with bold black statistics: Bi, 5.2%. Pan, 6.6%. Gay, 7.6%. Ace, 10.2%. At the bottom, a smaller note says that 'Percentages are of cis people who have had, or been directed to, conversion therapy for their orientation. Trans responses are omitted here for clarity, as they could have been targeted for gender, orientation, or both.']
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[White text on a black background says, 'HOMELESSNESS IS NOT AN EVENT: '...For LGBTQA youth, while disclosures of stigmatized sexual or gender identities typically did not instantly result in getting kicked out, it often arrived in the context of already stressed parent-child relationships and other parental and family struggles that were years in the making. 'Many of these youth eventually left in order to escape the stigma and discrimination they had endured within their families for quite some time. [They reported] some of the highest rates of adversity scores in our survey, often while stably housed.' Samuels, Gina E. Miranda, et al. (2019) Voices of Youth Count In-Depth Interviews: Technical Report.]
[White text on a purple background says, 'HOMELESSNESS: A higher likelihood of becoming homeless is one of the most socially visible effects of oppression. According to the national 2016-17 Voices Of Youth Count survey, 114% more homeless youth are on the ace spectrum than youth in the general population. 41% more are gay/lesbian; 50% more are bi; and 83% more are trans.' Below that, a grey bar chart on a white background shows these statistics, as well as showing that cis hetero youth are disproportionately less likely to become homeless.' Source: Chapin Hall at the University of Chicago. (2017) Youth Homelessness in San Diego County, California: Findings from the youth count, brief youth survey, and provider survey.]
[White text on a purple background says, 'In 2011, the National Transgender Discrimination Survey spoke with 6,450 trans people, creating a detailed portrait of transgender life. We all know the trans community struggles with very high homelessness rates. So high that even heterosexual trans people have the same likelihood of having been homeless at some point as their gay and bi transgender peers: around 19%. But if you're trans and ace? 27%.' Source: 'LGB Within the T,' The Williams Institute A grey bar chart on the right, against a white background, illustrates the statistics: 19% each for straight and gay trans people, 17% for bi trans people, and 27% for ace trans people.]
[Large white text on a black background says, 'If asexual people feel similar pressure to other sexual minorities to conform to heterosexual norms, then it is possible that they too may have elevated rates of mental health problems.' From Morag A. Yulea, Lori A. Brottob and Boris B. Gorzalkaa's 2011 paper, 'Mental Health and Interpersonal Functioning in Self-Identified Asexual Men and Women.']
[The header says, 'MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS: These are each group's mean scores on clinical assessments for depression and generalized anxiety disorder. GAD is diagnosed at scores of 10 or higher. Scores of 10-14 on the PHQ-9 indicate moderate depression.' Below this are greyscale stripes going from off-white to black. Each stripe has the name of a sexual orientation, followed by two emoji illustrating their average scores for clinical depression and anxiety disorders. Heterosexuals are illustrated with two smiley faces and the scores 6.15 anxiety, 6.99 depression. Gay Men and Lesbians have upside-down smiley faces, in the classic 'ha ha I'm screwed' emoji, and the scores 7.50 anxiety, 8.83 depression. The other four orientations have sad faces, illustrating scores approaching or above the clinical cutoff for these mood disorders: Bisexuals, 9.92 anxiety, 10.73 depression. Asexuals, 9.24 anxiety, 11.80 depression. Pansexuals, 10.13 anxiety, 12.37 depression. And demisexuals, 11.56 anxiety, 13.47 depression. A purple circle on the right contains the text 'Source: Borgogna, N. C., et al. 2018. Anxiety and Depression Across Gender and Sexual Minorities: Implications for Transgender, Gender Nonconforming, Pansexual, Demisexual, Asexual, Queer, and Questioning Individuals.']
[A black header against a broad purple background says, 'SUICIDALITY'. Below, in large white text, the number '26% of cis aces' stands out. It continues in smaller text, 'in a 2011 study had suicidal thoughts/feelings in the two weeks prior to the study, compared to 24% of cis LGB and 12% of cis straight subjects.' Source: 'Mental Health and Interpersonal Functioning in Self-Identified Asexual Men and Women,' Yulea, Brotto, & Gorzalska, 2011.]
[White text on a gray background says, 'Have you ever seriously considered suicide? 11% of cis straight people have thought about it at some point in their lives. So have 34% of cis gay and lesbian people, and 38% of cis bisexuals. 'In the cis ace community, that number jumps to 43.4%.' A purple bar graph to the right illustrates these numbers. Sources: Salway et al (2019). A Systematic Review and Meta‑Analysis of Disparities in the Prevalence of Suicide Ideation and Attempts Among Bisexual Populations, and Bauer et al (2016). The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report.]
[White text on a black background says, 'Asexual trans people have the highest rate of attempted suicide of all sexual orientations: a shocking 46%.' The number 46% is in large italic purple text. Smaller white italics continue, 'Remember, that statistic only measures those who attempted it. In one study of nearly 2,000 trans people aged 14-30, 95.5% of subjects reported having had suicidal thoughts and feelings at some point in their lives.' A purple bar chart to the right illustrates the statistics: 36% of hetero trans people, 40% of gay/lesbian trans people, 40% of bi+ trans people, and 46% of aces.' Sources: Grant, Jaime M. et al (2011). Injustice at every turn: A report of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey; and Kuper et al (2018). Exploring Cross-Sectional Predictors of Suicide Ideation, Attempt, and Risk in a Large Online Sample of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Youth and Young Adults.]

Links to all the sources, in the order that they appear: 

UK Government Equalities Office. (2017) National LGBT Survey. Data from more than 108,000 LGBTQIPA+ people across the United Kingdom. You can review the data and crunch your own numbers by clicking “analyse” on their website! They also have a report which presents some of the data, and their commentary.

Cantor, David, et al. (2015) AAU Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct. Data from more than 150,000 college and graduate students across the United States. 

Samuels, Gina E. Miranda, et al. (2019) Voices of Youth Count In-Depth Interviews: Technical Report. This is a 22-county study of 4,139 unhoused youth across the United States. They worked with local agencies, and were careful to include a mix of rural, suburban, and urban areas of varying densities and demographics. This report has a broad overview of their findings and recommendations. 

The in-depth data represented here comes from Chapin Hall at the University of Chicago. (2017) Youth Homelessness in San Diego County, California: Findings from the youth count, brief youth survey, and provider survey. Although that’s a San Diego-specific study, Appendix E provides the data from all 22 counties for comparison. 

The Williams Institute. (2016) LGB Within the T. This paper crunches the data from the 2011 National Transgender Discrimination Survey, which did in-depth interviews of 6,450 trans people of all orientations. 

Borgogna, N. C., et al. (2018) Anxiety and Depression Across Gender and Sexual Minorities: Implications for Transgender, Gender Nonconforming, Pansexual, Demisexual, Asexual, Queer, and Questioning Individuals. This paper crunches the data from the ACHA National College Health Assessment, a twice-yearly survey of (at last count) 67,972 students at 98 schools across the United States. 

Yulea, Brotto, & Gorzalska. (2011) Mental Health and Interpersonal Functioning in Self-Identified Asexual Men and Women. This is an older study, by comparison, and much smaller, so it’s used very sparingly here. 

Salway et al (2019). A Systematic Review and Meta‑Analysis of Disparities in the Prevalence of Suicide Ideation and Attempts Among Bisexual Populations. An extremely thorough analysis of the data available in 46 studies on LGBT suicidality, the reasons for different findings in different studies, and the most likely actual numbers. 

Bauer et al (2018). The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report. This is an ongoing annual online survey of major asexual communities; the 2016 survey received a total of 9,869 responses (Ace = 9331 and Non-Ace= 538). As it’s not a peer-reviewed published study, it’s used even more sparingly here; the only data used here from this report is the percentage of cis aces who had considered suicide. 

Grant, Jaime M. et al. 2011. Injustice at every turn: A report of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey. Further excellent analysis of the data from those 6,450 trans people.  

Kuper et al. 2018. Exploring Cross-Sectional Predictors of Suicide Ideation, Attempt, and Risk in a Large Online Sample of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Youth and Young Adults. Crunches data from the largest sample to date of transgender and gender non-conforming young people, a geographically diverse group of 1,896 respondents ages 14-30. 

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holybikinisbatman: “ swankivy: “ The Invisible Orientation is out in Japan, by the way. This is my first foreign-language edition. I’m not sure why it happened exactly–I found out about its Japanese publication in a funny roundabout way when the...
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The Invisible Orientation is out in Japan, by the way.

This is my first foreign-language edition. I’m not sure why it happened exactly–I found out about its Japanese publication in a funny roundabout way when the translator contacted me with questions and info requests and my response was basically “wait, why is someone translating it? is this legit?” But yes, a Japanese edition exists and is now available. I’ve already collected some royalties on this thing but I haven’t seen a copy in my hand yet.

People have been posting reviews on the book’s Japanese Amazon page for a couple months.

And!! As an interesting personal aside, some of my family is Japanese; my sister lived in Japan for eight years and met her husband there, so I have a Japanese brother-in-law and a half-Japanese nephew, and their family goes to Japan sometimes to visit friends and the in-laws. My sister found a STACK of my book in a book shop and sent me pics! A couple of these are from my sister’s Insta and she said I could put them in a post.

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So that’s pretty cool that ace nonfiction has made its way to Japan in translation form. :)

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wow!!! that’s so amazing!!!

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Anonymous asked:

(part 1/3) Hi! I've just found your blog and I'm very glad I did! I've been questioning for a while now if I might be asexual. I don't want to have sex (I'm not repulsed by it though) and I don't know if I experience sexual attraction as I'm not sure what sexual attraction is/feels like. I can see someone and think that they're hot/beautiful/pretty/etc. and just kind of want to keep looking at them, if that makes sense?

asexualchristian answered:

(part 2/3) I’ve also thought about sex with certain people but it was more of wondering “what would that be like?” rather than “that would be good/enjoyable.” Recently I read a post by a Christian who said God doesn’t make people asexual and that if you’re married you should be having sex with your spouse because that’s what God wants. It made me wonder if I’m going against God by not being interested in sex and possibly being asexual. 

(part 3/3) I’ve been praying about it every day but I’m still confused and scared. I’m not sure if there’s a specific question in this, I guess I’m just looking for some guidance and assurance. Thank you for creating this blog and for any help you can provide me with.

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Hey there! From what you described, it sounds like you don’t experience sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is so hard to explain, especially when you don’t experience it. Thinking someone is beautiful, pretty, or good looking is aesthetic attraction. It’s completely normal for an asexual to feel aesthetic attraction, but not sexual attraction. 

Asexuals can and some do have sex. So wondering what it would be like or even trying it out doesn’t invalidate your asexuality. As for the Christian take on asexuality, most Christians just don’t understand what they don’t experience and I’ve noticed a lot of them ignore the verses in the Bible that reference asexuality. 1 Corinthians 7 is a good place to look for about relationships. Paul speaks about sex in this chapter. He says that to remain from sexual immorality, those who are married should only have sex with the one they are married to. He does say in verses 5-6  “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command.” But, if you look at the context around this scripture, Paul is talking about sexual immorality. He is speaking to married couples who are sexually active and telling them what HE thinks is best to refrain from sexual immorality. The important part is what’s in verse 6. This is not a command, but Paul’s own thinking.

Paul goes on to say in verse 8 “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” He’s saying it’s better to remain single, but if a couple “burns with passion” it’s good for them to marry.

In verses 25-28 Paul says “Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” Paul is once again giving his own judgement in this situation and tells us that this is not a command from God. He says it’s good to remain single, but there’s nothing wrong with marrying. He warns that marriage can lead to troubles. 

Finally, in verses 32-35, he tells us “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” In other words, those who are married (and it’s implied also, those who have sex) have divided interests. They want to please their partner while those who are unmarried can live with undivided devotion to the Lord.

That was just 1 Corinthians 7. In Matthew 19:12, Jesus says “For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” The different kinds of eunuchs that Jesus refers to could very well include asexuals. There are asexuals born without the desire for sex, those who became asexual for different reasons, and those who simply choose not to have sex. 

The Bible is very much for asexuals. There is nowhere in the Bible that God commands everyone to get married and have sex. If anything, He recognizes that everyone is made different and He has different plans for each of us. For some of us, that means not getting married. 

I know that was long winded, but I hope it helped. God will give you the answers you search for. He loves you for who you are. If you feel that the word “asexual” fits you, then feel free to use it. There’s nothing wrong with being asexual and Christian.

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For all my Christian aspecs out there who need to have a conversation with your folks about this. I know that it’s not easy planning for a single life when your family wants you to be ‘happily married’.

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Anonymous asked:

Does God say anything in the bible about never having sex. Ever? I'm pretty sure I'm asexual, but people tell me God wants me to have children and do the nasty when I get married, but I don't want to. I get told no one will ever want me because of my "asexual curse"

queerlychristian answered:

Fear not, anon! God does not call everyone to marriage and/or sex, and that’s beautiful – we are all called down diverse paths and to use our unique gifts. It could be that you are called to the single life, or else to marriage without sex – both are perfectly possible for a faithful Christian, and biblically/traditionally based.

There is a rich history of asexuality in Christianity, one that reaches all the way back to Paul himself (or even to Jesus, if you want to interpret his single life as the possibility of him being ace/aro). Check out 1 Corinthians 7, where Paul advocates for the single life, saying that “I wish all people were like me” (i.e., not interested in sex/marriage). 

Some people also interpret Matthew 19:12, where Jesus talks about how some people are born eunuchs (people who could not procreate) or made eunuchs “for the sake of the kingdom of Heaven”, as being about asexuality. You can definitely read that passage as evidence that Jesus was totally cool about people who don’t have sex/reproduce!

Post-Biblical times, you can read about Christians like St. Cecilia and her husband (from the early 3rd century) who entered into celibate marriages, or like Santa Rosa de Lima (from the early 1600s) who shunned marriage in favor of a celibate single life. So as you can see, sex and procreation are not imperative to being a faithful Christian! 

It’s funny how mainstream Christian thought shifts over time. Back in the first several centuries of Christianity, for example, celibacy was actually the way to be! It was exalted over sex, and the single life was exalted over marriage. These days, for Protestants especially, the balance has shifted in the other direction – marriage is “better” than the single life, and (procreative, marital) sex is “better” than celibacy/abstinence.

I am of the firm opinion that exalting either abstinence over sex or sex over abstinence is simply absurd. To each person are given different gifts, and a different vocation. If God does not call someone to a life that includes sex but they feel pressured by other Christians to have sex (with a spouse, most likely) anyway, I think that’s so sad and often yields bad fruit.

We can best glorify God by doing as God wills for us as individuals – not what God wills for some other people, you know? And I think that being asexual, or being sex repulsed, or simply not feeling any desire for sex are all possible signs that sex is not a part of your calling. Maybe marriage is, and maybe it’s not – just keep reflecting and discerning what God’s call for you actually is, not what other people claim it is. 

A note on reproduction in particular: some people these days interpret God’s command to the first humans to “be fruitful and multiply” as evidence that God wants everyone to have kids (and thus, of course, everyone must have sex). That’s just…not a reasonable conclusion. Moreover, there are plenty of people who are having kids – humanity as a whole is doing the whole “multiplying” thing just fine without every single person reproducing. (Also, if one day you feel called to raise children, well, there are plenty of ways to do that without having sex! There are so many children in need of adoption right now.) And there are more ways to “be fruitful” than having children – good fruit comes in many forms.

To close this: I myself am asexual and my girlfriend and I plan to get married someday! I never get any pressure from her to have sex now or in the future – so I promise, it is possible to find someone who will love and respect you as you are, if you do feel called to that kind of relationship.

You are fine and even precious in God’s eyes as you are – so don’t pay any mind to the people who claim you “have” to have sex or have children to be faithful. You don’t. You can be most faithful by discerning God’s will for you and doing your best to glorify God as you are. 

You can check out our asexuality tag for some more stuff. Peace! 

Source: queerlychristian

Anonymous asked:

I am a sex repulsed asexual. I hate sex scenes in movies, books, shows. I've never felt comfortable being nude or around nudity. My fiance is the only person I feel comfortable being intimate with. Why? I'm not demisexual, I still dont feel sexual attraction to him. So why is my repulsion missing when I'm around him? He doesnt understand either and I can't explain it because I dont know why myself.

I also cannot tell you why for sure that is. My best guess would be that it’s a comfort and a safety thing.